| What If He Cheats Again - How Many Times Should I Forgive My Cheating Husband? |
| Written by T Dub Jackson |
| Thursday, 29 July 2010 07:13 |
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He once had cheated on you. And for that you are encountering difficulty with accepting the idea of letting him "off the hook". Of course you want to save your marriage. You never stopped loving your husband but at the same time you're afraid of forgiving him for cheating if in the near future he will be do it again, right?
He once had cheated on you. And for that you are encountering difficulty with accepting the idea of letting him "off the hook". Of course you want to save your marriage. You never stopped loving your husband but at the same time you're afraid of forgiving him for cheating if in the near future he will be do it again, right? Asking "how many times should I forgive my husband?" occupies most of your time than contemplating on the idea of the merits he has to deserve a second chance. This is definitely not good to any of you two. There is a need for you to explore your options and decide the best mode of action to follow. Once is More than Enough? Some women cannot handle a cheating husband. That's just too much betrayal and painful for them to bear day in day out. But there's nothing improper with that. You who are making the decision of forgiving or not forgiving are the one person who will live with that. Even if you forgive him that doesn't mean you have to continue living with him as man and wife. You aren't obligated to stay with him after he has cheated on you unless you choose to do so. Many women simply can't get past the cheating to see a possible future. It's completely understandable and will have a lot to do with how you feel about your marriage, your husband, and the vows you took together. Forgiveness is not a Free Pass One thing you must understand is that forgiving him for cheating on you and even giving him a second chance is not giving him license to go out and cheat on you again. There is no reason on earth that either of you should expect him to be free to cheat again just because you've forgiven it this once. However, this is something the two of you need to sit down and have long and strong conversations about before you decide to get back together. He needs to understand, without a doubt, that this is a second chance and he can squander it but that wouldn't be recommended. Definitely a Third Strike Won't Exist This must be put to clearly pointed-out to your cheating husband. There is a possibility that you will extend a second chance. But you are offering only one second chance. If he strays again, he will no longer be given the right to a turn at the plate (just to put in the medium he will surely understand). You have forgiven him once, still he went back to make the same mistake risking to ruin the relationship once more, then it must be high time for you to move back and spend some serious time apart. You have the choice of course to decide to forgive him once more, but changes definitely need to be put in place by the two of you if you really intend to make the relationship work. About the Author: Watch this free video: http://www.magicofmakingup.com to learn the first step you need to take to get moving in the right direction to get your ex husband and your marriage back on track. |